It is an invisible protagonist, and unless you resolve it, it can rule & derail your life.
Fear is what keeps us from making decisions long after the moment has passed.
Your path to success is lined with decisions. Your fear of change becomes your fear of success when you avoid making decisions that would lead to change.
In truth, we are only willing to change when the pain of remaining the same exceeds our fear of changing.
It doesn't have to be that hard ...
What are these fears & how do i deal with them?
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All these fears have their root in our powerful desires to be loved & accepted, to be safe, to be part of the group. These fears keep us from making decisions; decisions lead to change, and we do so fear change!
Being successful will likely evoke jealousy, envy, disapproval from others. People will try to take advantage of you.
If you fail, you may be ridiculed, you may be mocked, you may be pitied - it all depends on how you deal with it.
If perfectionism stands between you and your success, hear this, "Good is better than perfect. Fit for purpose is good enough."
These fears are all geared toward self-preservation. Not a bad thing, just ... a thing.
Dealing with it is simple - you need logic to make sure you're not doing a silly thing, and you need acceptance that you will never be free of all fears.
You need logic, so that you can reason your way through your fears.
You need acceptance, because we can never be 100% free of fear. Even when we don't fear for ourselves, we fear for a child, a partner, a nation, a country.
The Cartesian quadrants
This is the Cartesian Quadrants model of decision-making. I like it - it encourages the use of both logic and emotions without restricting either at the cost of the other.
What Happens If You Do
Make extensive notes in each quadrant. Think beyond your self; think of the impact on your friends, family, animals.
That is the power of the 4th Quadrant - What Won't Happen If You Don't.
Nobody can guarantee anything - ever. We live in a world of positive probabilities - we assume that tomorrow will be much like today. And for the most part, today is pretty similar to yesterday.
A shift in a single variable can change the primary context of our individual worlds. Think about the impact of a positive pregnancy test, a job offer, acceptance of a proposal - one sentence, and lives change.
When we make decisions, we are exerting control over specific aspects of our lives.
Nobody makes bad decisions - there are only undesirable outcomes. The good news? If you don't like the results of your decision, you get to choose again. The more times you exert your right to choose by making decisions, the easier it becomes. You start to understand that no decision is permanent; the world changes, and you will need to choose again.
Feeling overwhelmed? This will help. Still not sorted? Contact me - I've got you covered.
Tell me in the comments how you feel about fear of change, fear of making decisions, fear of success ...